All self-defense strategies come down to these choices.
Yell, the second skill, is anything using your voice. Talk to them, tell them what you want, give them a command, get really loud. Tell them what’s okay with you and what’s not.
Speaking up can be difficult but at the same time it’s simple. And practice makes it easier. Start small, with something like telling your friends what pizza toppings you want or telling a telemarketer to not call you anymore. Move up to telling a manspreader on the bus to please make room for you. Challenge yourself by telling a co-worker you can’t take their shift or help them with a project.
Whatever you do to use your voice, be sure to celebrate it. Even if it didn’t go the way you planned or have the result you hoped, you gained assertiveness skills by speaking up!
If you’d like to get more skills for growing assertiveness, check out one of our classes!
Tell us about a time you stood up for yourself with words!
Run, the first skill, may involve running as fast as you can. But it’s really anything that gets you out of harm’s way. It could be walking, wheeling, or driving away. It could be not showing up for a meeting or date. It could be leaving a relationship or a job. It may mean cutting off contact with a family member. Anything that makes you Not.Be.There. for the harassment, abuse, or assault that’s happening (or might happen).
Defend Yourself team members have:
- Cut off contact with homophobic parents
- Ended abusive relationships
- Runaway from attackers
- Left jobs with toxic bosses
…and much more!
When have you used a “run” technique? Tell us your story and if you tell us it’s okay, we may share it in the spirit of skill-building.